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Building confidence for your wedding day

Is the thought of being in front of all those people on your wedding day filling you with dread? Or are you panicking about all the other things you need to do before you even get to your wedding day? Then this is the confidence boosting blog for you.

Firstly, it's important to know that you are not alone and that it's not unusual for anyone planning a wedding to feel anxious about what's ahead. The chances are you've not planned a wedding before, so how would you know everything already? Also, you might be building things up in your head that are based on what you think should be happening, rather than what Can happen. In the early stages it's easy to get overwhelmed at the idea of talking to all those suppliers. In the latter stages it can become more about the actual day and being the focus of everyone's attention.

Here are a few tips on dealing with anxiety before it becomes too much

Learn some breathing techniques - public speakers use this to help calm them before a speech, but you can use this to calm an anxious mind at any time. . . Be prepared - break your to-do list down and work on a section at a time. Planning is hard but as the saying goes, failing to prepare is preparing to fail. . . Practice - run through all the bits of the day the day that give you the most worry (walking down the aisle, posing in front of a mirror, giving a speech, etc) that way it won't feel quite so strange on the day. . . Delegate - share some of the tasks you don't want to do yourself with others. Give the best man/maid of honour/ best woman/ushers any responsibilities you can such as chasing rsvps, doing parts of the set-up, chasing suppliers, making announcements, etc. . . Tell yourself a positive story - if your dreams are full of all the things that could go wrong, telling yourself out loud, if possible, all the ways it will go right can turn your worries around. . .

If your confidence issues are most based around your appearance and how others might perceive you:

You chose your outfit for a reason, hold onto that moment. . . Other people aren't you and quite frankly they don't matter, you do. . . Their opinion is their opinion and neither of you has to agree; the world would be super boring if we were all the same! . . Your partner is marrying you for you, not some slimmed down version of you. They loved you when you got engaged and they love you today. . . Surround yourself only with the people you can trust to build you up. . . Trust your photographer but also trust that no-one else sees those 'flaws' you're obsessing over. Don't get bogged down in the idea of photoshopping every image. . .

Everyone gets nervous before their wedding - excitement and fear feel very similar so if you feel like you're scared tell yourself it's just excitement and that it's ok. If you need help with your wedding planning get in touch today